Tuesday, April 29, 2014

3-0

Oh right. I said I was going to try and do this more often and now its been 3.5 months since Ive posted something... well then lets start with a big one.

30

Yep. Almost 2 & a half weeks ago I hit the big 3-0.

So for the big event Im going to go through a list Glamour and Huff-Post put online awhile back. Things every woman should have and know by the time she turns 30. And with the wisdom Ive gained in the week and a half Ive been 30 Ill explain why I either agree or disagree.

By 30, you should have ...
1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come. I mean seriously?? promoting women going back to old boyfriends?? WTF is wrong with people!? No- you broke up with them for a reason, and you shouldnt be pining if they broke up with you. The only way to be a healthy woman is to move the F on. The second part though I agree with fully. To appreciate the good you have in your life- there has to be a little bad. I appreciate my husband that much more because Ive had boyfriends in the past who were nothing more than an emotional drain.
2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family. Yes and No. I love old antiques and heirlooms- especially wood furniture- tables, bookshelves. But you also need that nice comfy couch to crash on- and it helps if its not musty from years of use OR storage.
3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour. Well these would be two different things obviously not wearing a suit to meet the man of your dreams- but yea- every woman should have a well tailored suit (Or suit pants and a nice blazer/blouse combo).
4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying. Purse- yes absolutely. Suitcase- who cares unless youre traveling for business regularly. Umbrella- seriously?? mix it up and have a little fun! There is no need for us all to have corporate looking blue and white golf umbrellas. stupid.
5. A youth you’re content to move beyond. Eh. I dont like this. Yes you need to grow up and mature- but you should always keep a hold on parts of your youth. Your drive and passion. The excitement for meeting people and doing new things. Our youth- the mistakes and achivements have made us who we are- and we need to celebrate this, lets say instead- a youth youre content with- youve accepted it and learned from it.
6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age. LOL We all need some interesting stories. But youre going to be retelling them long before your old age rolls around.
7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age -- and some money set aside to help fund it. Ugh. So beyond important. SAVE SAVE SAVE. Dont abandon all fun to save- but dont neglect your future just because everyone you know is going to Europe and South America and you dont want to be left out. Soon you'll be 30 and no where close to being able to afford the down payment on a house for your family and you'll start questioning whether that daily latte or the trip to cancun; where all you did was drink your face off, was really worth it.
8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account -- all of which nobody has access to but you. Well- until you get married and then it's bye-bye privacy lol. But by then you shouldnt be having anything in any of those places youre afraid of the other person seeing- because then youve missed the biggest point of marriage- trust.
9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded. Heck Yea! Very important. Dont waste time doing meaningless jobs for 10 years. Even if you cant find the job of your dreams right away- find one that adds to your skill set and boosts your resume honestly.
10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry. These could be the same friend, they could be different ones, but you cannot be a person in and of yourself with all your emotions. Tried it myself back in college and my 20s.... its emotionally exhausting and leads to bad decisions in life.
11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra. Ugh. I hate lace underwear. seriously you hate to hear it- but the older you get the more comfortable you want to be. Lace is only good if youre only going to have it on for an hour or so before your husband decides it looks better on the floor. 
12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it. This is dumb. And just feeding into our consumerist society. Yes, buy yourself something nice once in awhile- but it doesnt have to be ridiculous and it shouldnt be on the regular. I get my designer purses at outlets. I get my designer clothes and accessories at online outlets. Dont be an idiot with your money- I got a Vera Wang bridesmaids dress for $200 and an Invicta watch for my husband for the same. I saved $1400. Yep the person who paid the full almost 2K- you just failed.
13. The belief that you deserve it. You dont deserve a damn thing unless you worked your ass off for it.
14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30. Enough said. very true. Although plans dont always work out- you find yourself with minimal time and a maximum amount of work that needs to be done. But always make time to take care of yourself.
15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better. Beyond true. Those of us turning 30 now have had it hard on the job front thanks to the recession and on the relationship front thanks to the new norm in society of later entrance into marriage and family life (mostly because of the instability in our careers), but it is so important to find something that truly makes you happy for a career and in love and life. It doesnt have to be the end all be all- but it should be devoid of drama and full of optimism.

This is getting long- so ill post the rest in part two sometimes to come in the near future.