Monday, September 24, 2012

The day of surprising emails

Last tuesday apparently was the day for surprises. One maybe good and One ... not completely good. Both kinda shocked me.

(Potentially) Good News first.
I got an email from the professor I've already interview with out at the University of Michigan. His second round of trying to find someone for the position must not have gone so well- insufficient decent applicants or no one held a candle to my experience (I don't know but I like to pretend its the latter!).
He also apparently has come across some additional funding since we last spoke and I had to turn down the job because of salary. He wanted to know if I was still looking (YES), and still interested (YES).
So  I asked what the offer was and he said he'd get back to me by the end of the week or weekend.... here it is Monday and nothing yet. Im waiting impatiently, and trying not to get my hopes up too much- the original offer wasn't too far off from what I wanted, so I've really got my fingers crossed that he makes enough of a jump!

And on to the not so good news.
The first of my college friends to get married.... the ones who have been together for over 12 years married for almost 7 have decided to separate. (Disclaimer- they are apparently in mutual agreement about making this huge step in their lives- he was deployed and they decided they liked their lives better as individuals than together as a couple).
Holy Hell!! I mean I always figured I would eventually have a good friend who got divorced, but Im not even married and my friends have started divorcing already. Its kinda shocking. Especially since they've been together for this long. We talked about it this weekend and they always were very different people, and since they've been together so long they never got the chance to figure out who they were as individuals at an adult stage, so I guess in that way it makes sense....
I guess it just makes me shaky. I absolutely do not ever want to get divorced. I want what every girl wants- true love. Like my parents have- they still flirt and tease and love each other unconditionally (even though they both will complain about small things from time to time- which is completely normal) even after 33 years. I know it won't always be easy- its something I'm absolutely willing to work at though. But seeing friends who I thought loved each other that much say oh no we've decided we don't love each other that way anymore- kinda jars your psyche a bit.

The boyfriend and I base our relationship on love, trust, faith and honesty. We have also been through good and bad relationships as adults which I think helps us a lot in our expectations and knowing how to handle things, but it also means we have a bit more baggage to deal with. I like think were on the right track though. I mean- we have spent over 18.5 days on the phone and Skype over the past 10 months, sent over 4100 text messages and have had too numerous of emails and gmail chats to count. We've got the communication thing down pat- sensitive subjects and all. Next step- doing the same thing in person.... just as soon as a job in Michigan comes through.

Thursday, September 6, 2012

Escalation of Crime

Its been a year and almost 3 months since I was robbed. I find myself thinking about it frequently in the past couple of weeks. Maybe thats the two trips to Detroit talking-OR maybe its the increasing frequency of crime in DC.


D.C. police are trying to find out if two late-night attacks in the same Capitol Hill neighborhood are connected.
In both cases, the men were robbed and beaten on North Carolina Avenue SE, near Eastern Market.
The latest incident happened around 2:30 a.m. Tuesday. The victim, who was attacked by two men, was able to walk home and call police.
"It makes me feel very unsafe," said local resident Victoria Rodrigues. "[It's] really insane in this area, the amount of crime that's been happening lately... You assume when you move here that it's a nice area. You can see the Capitol building."
The latest incident occurred just a few blocks from where 29-year-old Thomas Maslin was nearly beaten to death a few weeks ago. Maslin was found on a porch of a house after lying outside for nearly eight hours.
Since the attacks, police increased patrols in the area. Police are also investigating to see if the same men are responsible for both attacks.
Matthew Marriott, 27, told News4's Jackie Bensen he was assaulted and robbed of a cellphone in the fall in broad daylight near Eastern Market. Now he wonders if he should have pushed the matter further when police explained the attack as a gang initiation.
Sounds rather familiar huh!? Marriott's experience rings a bell or three- Mine was just a little worse than  his and the police didnt try to explain it off... Neighbors in the area said nothing of this kind had happened there in 8-10 years- guess that means my robbery was just the beginning of what seems to be an escalation of crime in the area- in both frequency and severity. And this isnt the first time Ive read about increasing crime in DC and especially the Eastern Market neighborhood. It makes me even more glad that I cut and run when I had the chance.
Dealing with these things is never easy. I still sleep with the door to the apartment not just locked but with a latch across it as well and then go to the extra precaution of locking my bedroom door and sleeping with a nightstick under my pillow (oh dear!- the extremes we go to in order to try and feel safe). I think it's my proximity that keeps me in this state of paranoia. Im fine in Orange and in Richmond and even in Southfield (outside of Detroit)... there are other explanations for that- being with family having my boyfriend nearby and being on the 10th floor of an apartment building versus the first respectively- but I still think getting away from DC is a huge factor as well.

.... Now if only I could find a good job in Michigan to get me away from here.

Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Three of the most important things- Football, Relationships and Sororities- OR my weekend in a nutshell

AH! YAY! Hokie Football started yesterday!! (unfortunately I didnt get to watch cause I was on a plane back to DCA from DTW). But YAY! Fall has definitely become my favorite season over the years (it used to be spring when i was younger). But fall has way better weather, I adore fall colors and college football and lots of holidays coming up! 
When I went to bed last night we were faltering, but when I woke up we had won! 20-17 so obviously it wasnt pretty considering we played GT who is currently unranked, but I dont care. Plus the winner of the VT v GT game has always gone to the conference championship!

The weekend in Michigan was fantastic. Ive really been feeling down recently about not getting to see my boyfriend, especially in the wake of having to refuse the job in Ann Arbor that I was offered. The long distance thing is especially hard when you have no idea when it might end. But we had an absolutely terrific time together as usual, and he will be coming out to VA in just about 3 weeks to visit me (and watch some Hokie Football in DC!).
We had each bought each other presents as well for the heck of it and it was exciting to be able to give each other something in person for a change and see their reaction. He had sent me a movie and some music earlier in the week, but had also gotten me a book to give me in person. Its a collection of Jane Austen novels (because he loves classics and knows I love the movies and have always wanted to read the stories) and was beautifully bound with gilded pages. It ridiculously huge, but I cannot wait to read from it. I got him a monogrammed cigarette case- which he was pretty much enthralled with. I wasnt sure if it was anything he would want/ if it was really practical to use, but he immediately showed it to everyone he knew when we saw them so id say it was a pretty big hit which I was super happy about!

Also, I found out this weekend that I get to be a Pearl Sister for the new Alpha Gamma Delta colonization at the University of South Carolina! I have some friends who have done this before and said it was a fantastic experience and I cannot wait to help the new sisters in any way that I can- even if its just getting them even more excited about this experience! I really havent had the time to do anything with the sorority alumni groups or anything so I am really looking forward to this! And speaking of alumni groups- my former roommate is the new VP for our local one, and now that I have time- and her effort to keep me in the loop about when things are happening, I am going to try to be better about that as well! I really look forward to connecting with more sisters.