Friday, July 20, 2012

People have no Tact

I had to post this here because this disturbs me so greatly. No just the incident that happened out in Aurora Colorado, but the complete disregard that those people who have no idea what emotions are involved in such a matter have.

This morning I posted the following on my facebook after seeing what happened overnight. It is a terrible thing, and I feel so deeply for the people involved.

"I get that the media needs to portray how serious things are, but immediately jumping in and labeling something as a massacre does nothing except further damage the people who are dealing with the emotional ramifications of a horrific incident. 
My heart goes out to the people of Aurora CO."

I was greeted a short time later by a nasty message from an acquaintance. (Who's name I will be nice enough to omit- even though I'd like to be a brat and include it).

"What planet are you from? Seriously??? I understand this isnt a School Shooting... but it doesnt make it less important... just saying... think before you speak."

Really!? Thats what you get from what I wrote?! You know me- you know I went to Virginia Tech, you know I lost friends in the shooting in 2007, you know how deeply that has affected me, how deeply it has affected my friends, how every year on the anniversary I mention it, I mention how it can't possibly have been so long ago already, how the wounds are still there, how I still tear up whenever I step foot on campus and cry every time I stand there at the memorial gazing down at stones commemorating the lives of friends and of those I never knew.
The callous disregard people have towards the survivors, towards the families and friends. I am just in complete disbelief. Its easy for people who have never had to face such horror to brush it off or to not feel so heartbroken for those who are dealing with it- but to be so mean-spirited to someone who you know has dealt with these emotions first hand... I just can't get over the lack of compassion.

In case you're interested, I've included my response back to this individual below. I tried to remain calm and not resort to all-out calling them the terrible person they are for what they said, but my hands were certainly shaking while I wrote.

"WTF planet am I from!? WTF planet are you from- you took that completely wrong!
Im not saying its less important because not as many people were killed or because it didnt happen at a school!
Im saying that for the poor people who are dealing with this it creates even greater wounds by the media being so callous, this is emotionally difficult enough for those people without the media treating it like a frekin field day.
Maybe you should think before you speak- Ive actually dealt with this before and maybe know a thing or two about the emotional trauma associated with it."

"Im only saying this because of what I and hundreds of my friends have dealt with in the almost 5.5 years since the shooting happened at Tech. Labeling it as a massacre, and as the worst school shooting in history so that every time theres a shooting anywhere in the country they bring it back up as a point of reference. Or anytime there is an incident of any type/severity of violence its brought back up- constantly reminding us of the horror we went through. The media portrayed and continues to portray terrifying incidents such as this as though they are part of a scary movie playing on TV for the entertainment of everyone that is viewing it from a distance- isolated in time/space or emotion until those not associated are numb to the true violence that happened. They throw around words like massacre and terror without feeling an emotion for those involved because of the sensationalism is causes with TV viewers who have no idea what it is like to be in or know someone involved in one of those situations."

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